Free time takes priority over committed time.

Although this probably won't change the outcome of the situation, it will go a long way towards bolstering your ego and self-esteem in the face of his rejection.

You seize what little control you can in the interaction. making him live without you when he says 'it's over'), you exercise your agency, your power. But if you force him to live with the consequences of his decision (i.e.

By hanging on and hoping to get him back, you give him all of the power. In fact, you are the sole person capable of 'enforcing' the consequences of his decision. Although you have no control over his decision to break up with you or stop dating you, you can control what happens as a result of that decision. He will simply go about his life, waiting until his вЂњfeelings about you become clearвЂќ (which they never will). By staying in touch with him, you effectively give him a 'safety net.' Even if he doubts his decision, he will have nothing forcing him to act one way or the other. As long you stay in touch with him, he will know that he can have you back at any moment, and he will feel no urgency to reverse his decision. It will force him to think about his options seriously.Again, it is unlikely that this effect will be enough to make him change his mind, but in some instances it will be.В (Note: it is also possible that cutting him off will show him how much he doesn't miss you, but if this is this case then there is nothing you can gain by contacting him anyway - it is unquestionably over.) The starker that contrast is, the more he will feel your absence, and the more likely it is that he will miss you and want you back. By forcing him to experience life with you, and then suddenly without you (in other words, before and after the break up), you will emphasize whatever feelings he has as a result of his decision. It will show him what he is missing by way of contrast.Although this demonstration is unlikely to increase his attraction for you enough to make him change his decision, you will avoid confirming him in his decision by showing him that you are needy, pathetic and desperate - all of which are obvious symptoms of being below his league. It will demonstrate that you are a woman who isn't desperate or needy - a woman who can live without him (because you can). It will show him that you are a woman of high value.In any of these situations, cutting him off completely will accomplish five things: Keep in mind that by 'break up' I mean any situation in which a man makes it clear that he is no longer interested in pursuing a sexual or romantic relationship with you: not calling after he gets your number, fading out after sex or a few dates, or explicitly ending a long termВ relationship. I want to explain a little more systematically the reasons why this is important. If you've been reading this blog for any time now, you are familiar with the idea of cutting off a man after he breaks up with you.

Free time takes priority over committed time.